Bouncing with Style: Reverse Forgiveness by Sandra Beck, Motherhood Talk Radio

One of the things that strikes me on a weekly basis is how I can in one week forgive my ex-husband for his cheating and abandonment of me and then the next week I’m back to hating his guts and those of Bozo his mistress. Am I bitter? You bet. Angry? Totally. Able to let it go and move on….not so much.

What I have found with forgiveness is that it’s not really a one-shot deal. Now sometimes it’s because the original sin is aggravated. When my ex gave my child’s mother’s day card made in school to his mistress I wanted to rip his and her head off. I went into this crazy mommy spiral thinking how could Bozo as a mother accept that card? It created a litany of personal wrongs that whipped my non-forgiving spirit into full force.

But sometimes, reverse forgiveness just hits you. I hear this from my friends who were in long term marriages and relationships and their partner cheated on them and left. It affects both men and women. The cheating is bad enough but then to be left with your hat in hand is like salt in a paper cut. Many report the same things as I am expressing to you. There are good days and bad days with respect to forgiveness.

Forgiveness is an ongoing struggle – like laying off the potato chips. It’s awfully tempting to relax into bitterness. It’s quite frankly a whole lot easier being bitter than moving on. Being bitter is sort of fun at times. Mean snarky things come out of my mouth that make me and others laugh at Bozo and my ex. It creates a temporary albeit memorable fix. It’s a lot more effort to take the high road, be the bigger person and to let things go.

I think its important to not only teach each other that forgiveness is a process but also that forgiveness is not a permanent state of being- at least it was not for me. I have to admit I kind of expected the sun to shine down on me, angels to strum their harps and I would magically lose 30 pounds all because I had found forgiveness. Well, it didn’t and it doesn’t.

I guess what I am trying to say is that you need to be kind to yourself in your expectations of what happens when you finally “forgive” that person. Know that you can and probably will take it back especially when they do stupid things to you. Know that you can reverse forgiveness and then find it again. We are human and do the best we can. And it’s much harder to be on the forgiveness train than the cheater bus.

Don’t believe me? Check out Amazon and see how many books there are to help the person who was betrayed. Thousands. No so much information out there to help the cheater recover. Why? Because they had fun running about and cheating while the rest of us stayed home and raised the kids and paid the bills. I read the cheater posts but somehow it’s hard for me to feel empathy for their guilt that they spent the night in a five star hotel with someone else’s husband – especially when family trips are spent in the Holiday Inn.

Hmmm…See? I’m back in my reverse forgiveness bitterness mode. But thankfully I have an outlet like writing and supporting others in their recover journey. I encourage you to find a healthy one for you. Because, after all, you can recover, you can rebound or you can Bounce with Style.

Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is the host of three popular radio shows Military Mom Talk Radio, Motherhood Talk Radio and Poweredup with Beck and Franklin.

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Motherhood Talk Radio expands to Powered Up with Beck and Franklin

Motherhood Talk Radio is expanding their reach and topics with the additon of Linda Franklin to the show. Christy Holly had a baby girl over the holidays and has retired from the show. Linda Franklin of TheRealCougarWoman.com brings her own flavor to the show. What you loved about Motherhood Talk Radio is still there with host Sandra Beck and we are all excited for the newest offering from Motherhood Incorporated and Toginet Radio: Powered Up with Beck and Franklin.

Powered Up with Beck and Franklin airs Tuesdays 3m PST on Toginet.com.

Motherhood Talk Radio starring Sandra Beck welcomes Robin Boyd of Military Mom Talk Radio.

Robin Boyd Military Mom Talk Radio

Robin Boyd Military Mom Talk Radio

By Motherhood Incorporated, Motherhood Talk Radio

Motherhood Talk Radio  stars  Sandra Beck, and is hosted by Toginet Radio and RockStarRadio, and powered by Motherhood IncorporatedMotherhood Talk Radio features the powerful voices of  Christy Holly, Robin Boyd, Linda Franklin, Doris Rivas Brekke, Danee Kiernan, Susan Haid, Lisa Detres and Suzann Sladcik Wilson. Motherhood Talk Radio bring you everything from the latest crafting tips to how to be sexy in your 40s to great parenting tips to  moms living with cancer and most importantly how to Bounce Back with Style.

Today we welcome Robin Boyd of Military Mom Talk Radio.

Robin Boyd is married to a Vietnam Veteran and raised a wonderful son and daughter. Her son-in-law is prior military. With her need to be home to care for an elder, Robin joined the Motherhood Incorporated team in 2008. This was the perfect match for Robin to utilize her commercial art background as well as other credentials such as small business ownership, group management, and years of administrative work in the corporate realm.

Community service is a very important part of Robin’s life, having served with the Girl Scouts of theUSAfor 34 years, 15 of those years in adult volunteer management. Her support of the Lions Club International, her local food pantry and church, and service as a director for a local historic landmark, earned recognition by her community in 2009.

Robin, a cancer survivor,  and her husband of 33 years Stephen reside inNew Hampshire. They are proud parents of two grown children.

Sandra Beck is the president of Motherhood Incorporated. As an Author, Coach, Speaker, Radio Host, Entrepreneur and Philanthropist, Sandra Beck is as successful as she is busy. The single mother of two young boys has created a virtual empire of successful companies entirely staffed, managed and implemented using a host of virtual assistants and on-line resources. She is also the author of a wildly successful blog (www.motherhoodvoice.com.) Author of Motherhood Incorporated, The Smart Woman’s Guide to Working From Home with Just a Computer and an Internet Connection and Blogphoria – How To Reach Millions of People without Spending a Dime, Sandra Beck is a powerful voice in the Social Media Arena as a popular Internet Brand Strategist.

Sandra Beck is the host of two Radio Shows: Military Mom Talk Radio and Motherhood Talk Radio. An active contributor and participant in many charities, Sandra Beck strives to make the world a better place for today’s and our future’s children. Near to her heart are Toys for Tots, World of Children and Children Uniting Nations. Sandra Beck was born in a small town outside ofBuffalo,New York. She attended Northwestern University Medill School of Journalism, and earned both her Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism and her Master’s Degree in Advertising.

Motherhood Talk Radio starring Sandra Beck welcomes Christy Holly of Being the Best Physically in 2012.

Christy Holly Motherhood Talk Radio

Christy Holly Motherhood Talk Radio

Motherhood Talk Radio starring Sandra Beck welcomes Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman and Shining Service Worldwide.

Linda Franklin Real Cougar Woman

Linda Franklin Real Cougar Woman

By Motherhood Incorporated, Motherhood Talk Radio                                    

Motherhood Talk Radio  stars  Sandra Beck, and is hosted by Toginet Radio and RockStarRadio, and powered by Motherhood IncorporatedMotherhood Talk Radio features the powerful voices of  Christy Holly, Robin Boyd, Linda Franklin, Doris Rivas Brekke, Danee Kiernan, Susan Haid, Lisa Detres and Suzann Sladcik Wilson. Motherhood Talk Radio bring you everything from the latest crafting tips to how to be sexy in your 40s to great parenting tips to  moms living with cancer and most importantly how to Bounce Back with Style.

Today we welcome Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman and Shining Service Worldwide.

I was born inToronto,Canadaand moved toNew York Cityin my early twenties. Never having finished college, I worked as a secretary because that’s all I thought I was qualified to do.

Wall Street in the late 70’s was not a woman friendly environment but I used that to my advantage. At age 28 I walked into my boss’s office and asked to work in the firm’s trading department. He said yes, but it came with a very big caveat. He said, “make it or be fired”. That challenge made me determined to succeed and I did. I was the first Canadian woman to own a seat on The New York Stock Exchange and then went on to manage this leading investment firm’s all male trading department.

Then at 48 my life changed drastically. Due to a number of circumstances I decided to leave Wall Street. That transition was a devastating blow to my psyche. I didn’t realize how much of my identity I had attached to my work. Retirement had never been a thought in my mind and I had no idea of how to cope with not having a good reason to get up in the morning.

When I could no longer stand wallowing in self pity, I made the conscious decision to take back my power and my life. Over the next two years, I went on a quest to find the answers that would help me with my relationships, maintaining a healthy body, looking fabulous, starting a new career and filling my spiritual reservoir. That journey, as tough as it was, turned out to be a blessing. It re-ignited my passion and allowed me to get excited about act two of my life.

Wanting to share what I had learned I started a blog. People ask me all the time why I decided to call it the The Real Cougar Woman.

It wasn’t planned – it just happened after I started to read a slew of unflattering articles about women over 40. They were being called “cougars”, and portrayed as predators on the prowl for young men. This negative spin upset me and I wanted to focus on the many virtues of real women not the media’s idea of women over 40. So I coined the term Real Cougar as my way of celebrating our age, our accomplishments, our independence, and our passion for life. I make it clear that a Real Cougar refuses to be defined by the age of the man she chooses to be with. Today, three years later I am still doing everything I can to make “cougar” a designer label that women all over the world are proud to wear.

My best selling book Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am! – The Real Cougar Guidebook for Life After 40 is helping me to expand my message. It has important information that every woman needs to read. I have also included inspiring stories from other fabulous females that truly warmed my heart. It let me know we are all together on this journey through time.

My newest initiative is “Shining Service Worldwide™”. This is my outreach to support women in the military. Like most worthwhile ventures it wasn’t planned. After receiving emails from military women who felt empowered after reading my blog – the path seemed obvious.

Sandra Beck is the president of Motherhood Incorporated. As an Author, Coach, Speaker, Radio Host, Entrepreneur and Philanthropist, Sandra Beck is as successful as she is busy. The single mother of two young boys has created a virtual empire of successful companies entirely staffed, managed and implemented using a host of virtual assistants and on-line resources. She is also the author of a wildly successful blog (www.motherhoodvoice.com.) Author of Motherhood Incorporated, The Smart Woman’s Guide to Working From Home with Just a Computer and an Internet Connection and Blogphoria – How To Reach Millions of People without Spending a Dime, Sandra Beck is a powerful voice in the Social Media Arena as a popular Internet Brand Strategist.

Sandra Beck is the host of two Radio Shows: Military Mom Talk Radio and Motherhood Talk Radio. An active contributor and participant in many charities, Sandra Beck strives to make the world a better place for today’s and our future’s children. Near to her heart are Toys for Tots, World of Children and Children Uniting Nations. Sandra Beck was born in a small town outside ofBuffalo,New York. She attended Northwestern University Medill School of Journalism, and earned both her Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism and her Master’s Degree in Advertising.

Motherhood Talk Radio starring Sandra Beck welcomes Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman and Shining Service Worldwide.

Linda Franklin Real Cougar Woman

Linda Franklin Real Cougar Woman

By Motherhood Incorporated, Motherhood Talk Radio                                    

Motherhood Talk Radio  stars  Sandra Beck, and is hosted by Toginet Radio and RockStarRadio, and powered by Motherhood IncorporatedMotherhood Talk Radio features the powerful voices of  Christy Holly, Robin Boyd, Linda Franklin, Doris Rivas Brekke, Danee Kiernan, Susan Haid, Lisa Detres and Suzann Sladcik Wilson. Motherhood Talk Radio bring you everything from the latest crafting tips to how to be sexy in your 40s to great parenting tips to  moms living with cancer and most importantly how to Bounce Back with Style.

Today we welcome Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman and Shining Service Worldwide.

I was born inToronto,Canadaand moved toNew York Cityin my early twenties. Never having finished college, I worked as a secretary because that’s all I thought I was qualified to do.

Wall Street in the late 70’s was not a woman friendly environment but I used that to my advantage. At age 28 I walked into my boss’s office and asked to work in the firm’s trading department. He said yes, but it came with a very big caveat. He said, “make it or be fired”. That challenge made me determined to succeed and I did. I was the first Canadian woman to own a seat on The New York Stock Exchange and then went on to manage this leading investment firm’s all male trading department.

Then at 48 my life changed drastically. Due to a number of circumstances I decided to leave Wall Street. That transition was a devastating blow to my psyche. I didn’t realize how much of my identity I had attached to my work. Retirement had never been a thought in my mind and I had no idea of how to cope with not having a good reason to get up in the morning.

When I could no longer stand wallowing in self pity, I made the conscious decision to take back my power and my life. Over the next two years, I went on a quest to find the answers that would help me with my relationships, maintaining a healthy body, looking fabulous, starting a new career and filling my spiritual reservoir. That journey, as tough as it was, turned out to be a blessing. It re-ignited my passion and allowed me to get excited about act two of my life.

Wanting to share what I had learned I started a blog. People ask me all the time why I decided to call it the The Real Cougar Woman.

It wasn’t planned – it just happened after I started to read a slew of unflattering articles about women over 40. They were being called “cougars”, and portrayed as predators on the prowl for young men. This negative spin upset me and I wanted to focus on the many virtues of real women not the media’s idea of women over 40. So I coined the term Real Cougar as my way of celebrating our age, our accomplishments, our independence, and our passion for life. I make it clear that a Real Cougar refuses to be defined by the age of the man she chooses to be with. Today, three years later I am still doing everything I can to make “cougar” a designer label that women all over the world are proud to wear.

My best selling book Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am! – The Real Cougar Guidebook for Life After 40 is helping me to expand my message. It has important information that every woman needs to read. I have also included inspiring stories from other fabulous females that truly warmed my heart. It let me know we are all together on this journey through time.

My newest initiative is “Shining Service Worldwide™”. This is my outreach to support women in the military. Like most worthwhile ventures it wasn’t planned. After receiving emails from military women who felt empowered after reading my blog – the path seemed obvious.

Sandra Beck is the president of Motherhood Incorporated. As an Author, Coach, Speaker, Radio Host, Entrepreneur and Philanthropist, Sandra Beck is as successful as she is busy. The single mother of two young boys has created a virtual empire of successful companies entirely staffed, managed and implemented using a host of virtual assistants and on-line resources. She is also the author of a wildly successful blog (www.motherhoodvoice.com.) Author of Motherhood Incorporated, The Smart Woman’s Guide to Working From Home with Just a Computer and an Internet Connection and Blogphoria – How To Reach Millions of People without Spending a Dime, Sandra Beck is a powerful voice in the Social Media Arena as a popular Internet Brand Strategist.

Sandra Beck is the host of two Radio Shows: Military Mom Talk Radio and Motherhood Talk Radio. An active contributor and participant in many charities, Sandra Beck strives to make the world a better place for today’s and our future’s children. Near to her heart are Toys for Tots, World of Children and Children Uniting Nations. Sandra Beck was born in a small town outside ofBuffalo,New York. She attended Northwestern University Medill School of Journalism, and earned both her Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism and her Master’s Degree in Advertising.

Motherhood Talk Radio starring Sandra Beck welcomes Robin Boyd of Military Mom Talk Radio.

Robin Boyd Military Mom Talk Radio

Robin Boyd Military Mom Talk Radio

By Motherhood Incorporated, Motherhood Talk Radio

Motherhood Talk Radio  stars  Sandra Beck, and is hosted by Toginet Radio and RockStarRadio, and powered by Motherhood IncorporatedMotherhood Talk Radio features the powerful voices of  Christy Holly, Robin Boyd, Linda Franklin, Doris Rivas Brekke, Danee Kiernan, Susan Haid, Lisa Detres and Suzann Sladcik Wilson. Motherhood Talk Radio bring you everything from the latest crafting tips to how to be sexy in your 40s to great parenting tips to  moms living with cancer and most importantly how to Bounce Back with Style.

Today we welcome Robin Boyd of Military Mom Talk Radio.

Robin Boyd is married to a Vietnam Veteran and raised a wonderful son and daughter. Her son-in-law is prior military. With her need to be home to care for an elder, Robin joined the Motherhood Incorporated team in 2008. This was the perfect match for Robin to utilize her commercial art background as well as other credentials such as small business ownership, group management, and years of administrative work in the corporate realm.

Community service is a very important part of Robin’s life, having served with the Girl Scouts of theUSAfor 34 years, 15 of those years in adult volunteer management. Her support of the Lions Club International, her local food pantry and church, and service as a director for a local historic landmark, earned recognition by her community in 2009.

Robin, a cancer survivor,  and her husband of 33 years Stephen reside inNew Hampshire. They are proud parents of two grown children.

Sandra Beck is the president of Motherhood Incorporated. As an Author, Coach, Speaker, Radio Host, Entrepreneur and Philanthropist, Sandra Beck is as successful as she is busy. The single mother of two young boys has created a virtual empire of successful companies entirely staffed, managed and implemented using a host of virtual assistants and on-line resources. She is also the author of a wildly successful blog (www.motherhoodvoice.com.) Author of Motherhood Incorporated, The Smart Woman’s Guide to Working From Home with Just a Computer and an Internet Connection and Blogphoria – How To Reach Millions of People without Spending a Dime, Sandra Beck is a powerful voice in the Social Media Arena as a popular Internet Brand Strategist.

Sandra Beck is the host of two Radio Shows: Military Mom Talk Radio and Motherhood Talk Radio. An active contributor and participant in many charities, Sandra Beck strives to make the world a better place for today’s and our future’s children. Near to her heart are Toys for Tots, World of Children and Children Uniting Nations. Sandra Beck was born in a small town outside ofBuffalo,New York. She attended Northwestern University Medill School of Journalism, and earned both her Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism and her Master’s Degree in Advertising.

Motherhood Talk Radio Hosted by Sandra Beck Welcomes the Cancer Treatment Centers of America Tuesday Sept. 11

Cancer Treatment Centers of America (CTCA) is a growing network of privately held hospitals that provide a comprehensive, fully integrated and individualized cancer treatment experience. CTCA regional destination hospitals are located in Atlanta, Chicago, Philadelphia, Phoenix and Tulsa. The CTCA growth goal is to reach more cancer patients by offering six regional hospitals located within 300 miles of approximately 80 percent of the U.S. population.

History
Cancer Treatment Centers of America was founded in 1988 by Richard J Stephenson. Stephenson was disappointed with the impersonal and insensitive cancer care his mother, Mary Brown Stephenson, received. When she lost her battle with cancer in 1982, Stephenson set out to change the face of cancer care. Stephenson’s commitment to creating a truly patient-centered cancer treatment experience has been the organization’s guiding principle ever since.

The Mother Standard®
CTCA promises that the treatment, quality of life and service needs of every patient will be at the center of the hearts, minds and actions of its staff every day. At CTCA, patients find accomplished physicians who specialize in caring for people living with advanced and complex cancer, along with experienced nutritionists, naturopathic doctors, mind-body therapists, spiritual counselors and other clinicians who provide quality-of-life support. Collectively they work to address the individual needs of patients, as if each patient was his or her own mother or loved one. They ask themselves: “If my mother had cancer, how would I want her to be treated?” That simple question has evolved into the CTCA Mother Standardof care, a unique, vibrant approach that delivers a complete, quality treatment experience based on what cancer patients and their families value most.

The Mother Standard of care allows CTCA clinicians to offer cancer patients the latest, evidence-based treatments to fight cancer, combined with a comprehensive array of scientifically supported complementary medical therapies to strengthen the immune system, ease side effects and improve quality of life.

Visit the Cancer Treatment Centers of America at www.cancercenter.com

Robin Boyd, regular co-host on Military Mom Talk Radio, and contributor on Motherhood Talk Radio is married to husband Stephen, a Vietnam veteran. Together they have a wonderful son, and daughter now married to a Marine veteran. With her need to be home to care for an elder, Robin joined the Motherhood Incorporated team in 2008. This was the perfect match for Robin to utilize her commercial art and communications background as well as other credentials such as early childhood education, small business ownership, group management, and years of administrative work in the corporate realm.

Community service is a very important part of Robin’s life, having served with the Girl Scouts of the USA for 34 years, 15 of those years in adult volunteer management. Her support of numerous community and civic groups earned recognition by her community in 2009.

Robin, a cancer survivor, resides in New Hampshire. Contact Robin at www.robinkboyd.com

Motherhood Talk Radio  stars Sandra Beck, and is hosted by Toginet Radio and RockStarRadio, and powered by the Motherhood Incorporated.   Motherhood Talk Radio features the powerful voices of Christy Holly, Robin Boyd, Linda Franklin, Danee Kiernan, Susan Haid, and Lisa Detres. Motherhood Talk Radio airs live every Tuesday at 6 pm eastern, 3 pm pacific on Toginet Radio and can be downloaded on iTunes or at MotherhoodTalkRadio.com.

Motherhood Talk Radio starring Sandra Beck welcomes Christy Holly of Being the Best Physically in 2012.

Christy Holly Motherhood Talk Radio

Christy Holly Motherhood Talk Radio

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly, and Rick Swanson, welcomes Danee Kiernan of Bouncing with Style: Starting Over but not from Scratch.

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly, and Rick Swanson, welcomes Danee Kiernan of Bouncing with Style: Starting Over but not from Scratch.

Motherhood Talk Radio, Motherhood Incorporated, Sandra Beck, Rick Swanson, Christy Holly, Mom Talk Radio, Mommy Talk Radio, Talk Radio for Moms, Embracing Motherhood, Motherhood Radio, Parenting Talk Radio, Parent Talk Radio, Talk Radio for Parents, Embracing Parenthood, Parent Radio, Mom Radio, Mommy Radio, Woman Talk Radio, Women Talk Radio, Women’s Issues Talk Radio, Women’s Health Talk Radio, Work At Home Mom Talk Radio, Women Power Talk Radio, Smart Women Talk Radio, Stupid Diet Guy Talk Radio, Stupid Diet Guy, Los Angeles Talk Radio, California Talk Radio, Dating Advice Talk Radio, Marriage Advice Talk Radio, Divorce Advice Talk Radio, Wedding Advice Talk Radio, Relationship Advice Talk Radio, Free advice on dating, free advice on marriage, free advice on divorce, free advice on weddings, free advice on relationships, free relationship advice, women’s issues shows, women’s issue show, talk radio los angeles, free cooking advice, cooking talk radio, family matters, advice for families, free advice for families, free adoption advice, advocate for women, crafting for moms, mommy crafts, beading, care packages for soldiers, child adoption services, empowerment thinking, optimal thinking, culture building, diversity training, eldercare talk radio, nutrition talk radio, fit to strip challenge, friend ship talk radio, girlfriend talk radio, girlfriend advice on dating, girlfriend advice on marriage, girlfriend advice on wedding, girlfriend advice on relationship, stupid diet guy on dating, stupid diet guy on marriage, stupid diet guy on divorce, stupid diet guy on weddings, stupid diet guy on relationships, pet health care, pet health insurance, Zestra, SempraeAs an author, speaker, parent and entrepreneur, Danee Kiernan enjoys her busy life as much as she enjoys sharing stories of the heart with others.  Whether she is writing, conversing one on one, or presenting to a large group, Danee shares her belief that destiny is a matter of choice, not chance. Her strategies for emotional survival, personal empowerment and engagement in life, stem not only from her own experiences, but also the life journeys shared by others along the way.

Danee Kiernan is the co author of Bouncing with Style.  In this project, Danee Kiernan and Sandra Beck partner to share their discovery of stepping stones and successful strategies from women who have experienced hardship and traveled the road to recovery with conviction and confidence.  The result is a culmination of real life recommendations designed to help others navigate life’s challenges with grace and style.

Danee Kiernan is the owner of Aris Partners, Inc., an executive recruiting firm and Table for14, an adoption advocacy group.  As an advocate for the rights of women and children, Danee Kiernan supports Heifer International, Children Uniting Nations, World of Children, FRUA (Families for Russian and Ukrainian Adoption), LAAF (Latin American Adoptive Families), Voices United as well as other organizations committed to the well-being of women and children.

Danee Kiernan makes her home inWisconsin, where she and husband Jim, are thoroughly enjoying the experience of raising their 12 children.  She earned a Bachelor’s degree in Elementary Education fromIowaWesleyanCollegeand MBA from theUniversityofWisconsin.

You can reach Danee Kiernan at daneekiernan@gmail.com

Motherhood Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated.  Motherhood Talk Radio would like to thank our guest who have spoken with respect to motherhood on the following topics: women’s issues, parenting, relationship advice, personal growth, divorce, marriage, dating, weddings, relationships, health care, pet health, crafting, beading, relationship advice, cooking, family matters, care packages for soldiers, nutrition, child adoption, children with brain injuries, children’s advocacy, autism, cancer, eldercare issues, child care issues, personal growth and parenting issues.