Never, Never Quit – PTSD by Sandra Beck, Military Mom Talk Radio

I am not a psychologist or a therapist. I have no medical training whatsoever. What I have done is talk to experts and read their books and reports regarding Post Traumatic Stress – whether you add the D as in Disorder or not – it sucks.  And PTDS sucks for the whole family – including friends and coworkers.

To the best of my understanding, what I see from the cheap seats is everyone I have talked to and their family members who have shared with me their experiences with deployment is that everyone who serves comes back different.  Is this because of a label like PTSD? Is this just a normal human reaction to the abnormal experience of War? Probably a little bit of both with some additional trauma thrown in.

I don’t know how we ever expected people to be the same coming back after a combat experience. We change after we go to college. We change after we find religion. We change every time we experience something new.  Some changes are for the better. Some changes are for the worse.

All I know is that what I hear on the air and off the air that when people come back they are different. Some differences are extreme and some are traumatic for everyone involved.  Some differences suffer in silence. I have also understood from many service members that they are different after every deployment. I guess I can sum it up in a few words- after every deployment everyone including the service member and their family and friends must adjust to a new normal.

PTSD/PTS is real and it’s here to stay.  The more we accept it as an expected I believe the faster we can get services to the people who really need it. I believe the faster we remove the stigma from this, the faster we can raise awareness, help those affected and move forward with what we all need.

I also learned from my experiences that PTSD/PTS is much like the word cancer. It covers just a huge spectrum of situations.  I have also heard about treatments that span the same spectrum. They are as wide and varied as the diagnosis itself. My advice from a completely un-medical perspective:

Do what works. Use your head but be open to new things – remember no one ever died from an open mind. Stop what doesn’t or makes it worse. You served our country. You are oue hero. You are valuable and we need you here. Keep trying until you figure out what you need to do to take care of yourself and never, never quit.

Sandra Beck is the host of Military Mom Talk Radio a show dedicated to bringing issues, solutions and up to date information to our Military Families.  Mondays 2pm PST on Toginet.com. Also available for free on Itunes.  Sandra Beck is a writer for MilitaryConnection and a member of VAMBOA and Military Writer’s Society of America This Article appeared on http://www.militaryconnection.com.

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Bouncing with Style, By Sandra Beck, Military Mom Talk Radio

I talk a lot about Bouncing. I like the word “Bounce” because it says to me that we just get knocked down and bounce right up again like a rubber ball. “Bounce” also sounds fun. I mean really how much fun are the words “recovery”, “adjustment” and “rebound.”

Chances are if you are alive reading this you will go through death, financial loss, separation and probably divorce in this lifetime at some point or another.  I got hit with all of those in the past few years all at once and it seemed like it would never end. My life was like a wave of pain that kept washing over me – only it didn’t cleanse me it just hurt.
Life is full of hurts and I think the military family goes through more than most civilian families. They have to say goodbye a lot more. They have to change a lot more. They also wonder if mom or dad is ever coming home and if they are what will that be like. These are some of the special conditions that our military families face on a daily basis. One of my radio show guests moved 19 times in “her” military career as did “her children.”  Yeah, it was the “dad” who served but one when enlists the whole family comes along for the ride.  I call the kids the “littlest soldiers” because they are serving too.

Because life is hard and bad things happen to all of us, I have learned that the way I phrase it in my head makes a big difference in my day.  If I get up and “bounce” I smile. If I am in “recovery” I frown.  Same things happened to me, but the way I choose to phrase them in my head make all the difference.

Take my divorce. It sucked. I was cheated on, then left alone with little kids and got the bills dumped on my head while my mom died of breast cancer. Any way you slice it – it sucked.  I could use the word “divorced” but that has such an icky feel to it. I choose the word “recycled” and I feel like I am helping the planet at the same time.

I don’t like to say I am in “abuse recovery” either.  That just sounds dismal. So I choose the phrase “I’m bouncing with style.”  And what does style mean??? – it means getting up every day , fixing my hair…putting on something other than sweats and greeting my future.  Do I hit the mark every day – not a chance.  But I try and do my best to phrase things in my head in a way that serves me.  Why do it any other way?  When life bowls me over, I bounce.  Do you?

Sandra Beck is the host of Military Mom Talk Radio a show dedicated to bringing issues, solutions and up to date information to our Military Families.  Mondays 2pm PST on Toginet.com. Also available for free on Itunes.  Sandra Beck is a writer for MilitaryConnection and a member of VAMBOA and Military Writer’s Society of America This Article appeared on http://www.militaryconnection.com.

Motherhood Talk Radio welcomes Donna A. Lewis of Reply All, and Clare Carver of the Big Table Farm

Motherhood Talk Radio  stars  Sandra Beck, and is hosted by Toginet Radio and RockStarRadio, and powered by Motherhood Incorporated.  Motherhood Talk Radio features the powerful voices of  Christy Holly, Robin Boyd, Linda Franklin, Doris Rivas Brekke, Danee Kiernan, Susan Haid, Lisa Detres and Suzann Sladcik Wilson. Motherhood Talk Radio bring you everything from the latest crafting tips to how to be sexy in your 40s to great parenting tips to  moms living with cancer and most importantly how to Bounce Back with Style.

Today Sandra and Christy welcome Donna A. Lewis of Reply All, and Clare Carver of the Big Table Farm.

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Outside of the office, Donna is an advocate on behalf of persons with disabilities and has a particular interest in the issues facing those transitioning from crisis back into the workforce.    

Donna has taught legal research and writing, composition, public speaking and lectured on a variety of disability topics for entities and organizations including the University of Maryland, The American University Washington College of Law, the George Mason University Law School,  and Dale Carnegie Training.

Donna can be found serving on local community boards, spoiling five ridiculously smart and funny nieces, and answering to the unreasonable demands of her little white dog Bella and her little black cat Boo.  Donna is a published writer whose work has appeared in a variety of publications including The Washington Post, The Northwest Current and publications far more dry than the Internal Revenue Code.   

Donna is currently writing (and drawing) Reply All, a daily comic strip syndicated by the Washington Post Writers Group.

For more about Donna, visit www.replyallcomic.com

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Big Table Farm is the collaborative effort of Brian Marcy and Clare Carver.
We are a winemaker and an artist, we grow and produce what we love to eat and drink.

The farm and winery is named after their desire to provide a gracious and welcoming table for themselves and friends, with a cornucopia of hand-crafted food and wine. Ambitious as it is, they have launched a winery and are establishing a working farm, where they raise pasture poultry, pigs, cows, and egg-laying chickens. Brian and Clare also keep a large garden, working towards a managed intensive grazing system of farming that builds the soil, sequesters carbon, and moves towards a healthy, sustainable and diverse farm.

In addition to partnering with Brian to market the wine and manage their 70 acres, Clare is also a painter and wine label designer. Clare’s fine art is represented in Galleries in San Francisco and Sonoma and now in Carlton OR. Clare has designed wine labels for over 50 wineries from Oregon, California and Washington. Her labels have recieved multiple awards including america’s top ten wine labels (S.F.  Chronicle, ’06) her winery clients inculde (just to name a few) Beaux Freres, Delicato Family Vineyards, Grace Family Vineyards, Miner Family Vineyards, Patton Valley Vineyards, Resonance Vineyards, Love and Squalor Winery and Phelps Creek Vineyards.

For more information, visit www.bigtablefarm.com

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck airs every Tuesday at 3 pm pacific, 6 pm eastern on Toginet.com. Sandra Beck is the host of two Radio Shows: Military Mom Talk Radio and Motherhood Talk Radio. An active contributor and participant in many charities, Sandra Beck strives to make the world a better place for today’s and our future’s children. Near to her heart are Toys for Tots, World of Children and Children Uniting Nations. Sandra Beck was born in a small town outside ofBuffalo,New York. She attended Northwestern University Medill School of Journalism, and earned both her Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism and her Master’s Degree in Advertising.

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd present Janet Perez Eckles author of Simply Salsa – Dancing without Fear at God’s Fiesta

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As a young girl, Janet packed dreams and expectations when she left Boliviato come to America. She found not only wonder and beauty in her new life, but also the challenge to overcome trials—physical blindness, marital infidelity, financial devastation, the loss of her son and the acquittal of the man responsible.

But rather than despair, Christ’s love ushered victory for each battle, giving her wisdom to overcome adversity, rekindling her zeal for life and ushering peace for each moment. These victories sparked her mission to inspire and encourage others. As a bilingual Spanish inspirational speaker, she ignites in her audiences the same passion to triumph, to find purpose in life and achieve professional and personal success.

Janet earned her bachelor’s degree in Business Administration from Southeast Missouri State University. After graduation, she met Gene, her husband of 35 years. They live in Orlando, FL where they enjoy their sons, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren.

Janet serves as a women’s Sunday school teacher and a ministry leader at South Orlando Baptist Church. Check her out at www.janetperezeckles.com.

Motherhood Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated.  Motherhood Talk Radio would like to thank our guest who have spoken with respect to motherhood on the following topics: women’s issues, parenting, relationship advice, personal growth, divorce, marriage, dating, weddings, relationships, health care, pet health, crafting, beading, relationship advice, cooking, family matters, care packages for soldiers, nutrition, child adoption, children with brain injuries, children’s advocacy, autism, cancer, eldercare issues, child care issues, personal growth and parenting issues.

 

Motherhood Talk Radio powered by Motherhood Incorporated and Hosted by Sandra Beck welcomes Alisa Bowman author of Project: Happily Ever After

Sandra Beck, Motherhood Talk Radio, Mom Talk Radio, Talk Radio for Mothers, Mommy Talk,  Christy Holly, Rick Swanson, Itunes, Motherhood Incorporated, Toginet, Itunes, Alisa Bowman, Project: Happily Ever AfterIn Project: Happily Ever After, Alisa Bowman bravely tells the story of how she went from wishing her husband dead to renewing her wedding vows.  Her four-month project was a last ditch effort to save a marriage that many – her friends, her colleagues and ever her own mother – had written off as hopeless.   Alisa will be discussing her book and share the insight, inspiration and information only any author can bring to her work.

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Motherhood Talk Radio is powered by www.MotherhoodIncorporated.com, bringing you the most powerful voice in women’s issues today and is hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson.  Motherhood Talk Radio airs on www.Toginet.com every Tuesday, 3 pm pacific, 4pm mountain, 5 pm central and 6 pm eastern and can be downloaded from  www.Itunes.com and www.motherhoodtalkradio.com.

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck and Christy Holly presents Certified Sex Educator Lou Paget powered by Motherhood Incorporated

Motherhood Incorporated, Motherhood Talk Radio, Sandra Beck, Christy Holly, Rick Swanson, Toginet, itunes, Lou Paget, Sex and Intimacy, HBO Real Sex, Making Love HappenLou Paget is a Certified Sex Educator and grassroots researcher whose quest for accurate practical information for herself has created a highly successful international seminar and product company with a focus on lifestyle and cultural trends that impact our sexuality, health and relationships. Paget began organizing her Los Angeles based women’s focus groups on sexuality and health in the early ’90s.
What she didn’t anticipate was that her small, informal discussion groups would explode into some of the most popular and revolutionary sexual forums nationally and internationally.

Lou Paget has single-handedly given the arena of sexual education and information a more accessible and honest attitude. Her corporation’s name, Frankly Speaking Inc. is an acronym of the values she feels information about your sexuality should give you; Freedom, Respect, Accuracy, Non-judgmental, Knowledge

Lou’ Paget’s one hour TV Special on WE Network, MAKING LOVE HAPPEN WITH LOU PAGET will premiere on Tuesday August 1st. Her 5th book, HOT MAMAS: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO STAYING SEXY THROUGHOUT YOUR PREGNANCY AND THE MONTHS BEYOND released with Gotham Press, January 2005. Lou Paget has been busy in all other media as well. Her extensive media list can be found here.

Star of HBO Real Sex’s Top Segment of 2000 and a massive hit in the British documentary Sex Tips for Girls, Paget is continuing to expand her quest for information into the field of relationships. Equally respected by her peers in the fields of sexuality research, she regularly presents at national and international professional conferences. Paget is also expanding into different seminar markets, taking advantage of more international marketing opportunities, developing product lines of adult novelties that `actually’ work, and expanding her broad media collaborations.

With her trademark calm fearless intelligence Paget delivers the core essence of information about intimacy and that is the springboard behind her being an International Best selling author of FIVE books, translated into TWENTY-SIX languages and represented in over SIXTY countries with over THREE million copies sold. As she says relative to intimacy and sexuality, “Common sense isn’t all that commonly practiced but we all want it.”

Motherhood Talk Radio is powered by Motherhood Incorporated, bringing you the most powerful voice in women’s issues today and is hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson.  Motherhood Talk Radio airs on Toginet.com every Tuesday, 3 pm pacific, 4pm mountain, 5 pm central and 6 pm eastern and can be downloaded from Itunes and www.motherhoodtalkradio.com.

Motherhood Talk Radio Presents Lisa Kamen, Harvesting Happiness – Aug. 31

Lisa Cypers Kamen, Lisa Kamen, Harvesting Happiness, H-Factor, H-Factor Where is Your Heart, Motherhood Talk Radio, Sandra BeckIndependent filmmaker Lisa Kamen produced the 10-minute short, “A Passage Through India—Diamonds in the Rough,” for her bachelor’s degree and used it successfully to raise funds for the Sulaxmi School for Girls in Lucknow, India, which her family now supports. While biking through Northern India, Kamen was struck by how, even in the presence of extreme poverty, the Indian people could express joy and genuine happiness. This is the genesis for Lisa’s master’s thesis in Spiritual Psychology—a documentary film she is co-creating with her nine year-old daughter, Kayla, who operates the camera. Together they explore the hypothesis that every person, regardless of socioeconomic level, age, ethnicity, career, health, or life circumstances, possesses happiness or the means to feel happy. Their endeavor to discover possibly universal keys to human happiness leads the duo on an entertaining, deeply touching documentary adventure.

Using the spontaneity of man-on-the-street style interviewing, Lisa and Kayla ask prospective interviewees to contribute their heartprint to a G-rated documentary film exploring the nature of happiness. Mother and daughter have logged hundreds of interviews to date, filming all kinds of people, each for about 60 seconds, responding to one question that elicits the essence of happiness and joy for that individual. These one-minute heartprint interviews have been filmed in diverse locales around India and in the United States including Central Park, Ground Zero, bus stations, homeless shelters, fire and police stations, schools for the deaf, independent living centers, jail, hospitals, houses of worship, a funeral home, people in commuter traffic, in lines, in labor, in escrow, and in debt—and the filming continues…

The film’s point of view is through the eyes of nine year-old Kayla. Her unique perspective—literally about four feet from the ground—means a low camera angle combines with high energy and humor. Her presence, suited up with professional camera equipment and headset, monitoring her sound levels and video, seems to soften interviewees, making their revelations especially genuine. A second camera operator captures the interchange between interviewee, Kayla, and Lisa, accentuating the multiplier effect of happiness on others.  Experts and lay people alike see ample evidence that wealth, fame, and material goods don’t produce real happiness. In “H-Factor…Where is Your Heart?” real people from all walks of life illustrate—in humorous and heartfelt ways—what does.

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