Never, Never Quit – PTSD by Sandra Beck, Military Mom Talk Radio

I am not a psychologist or a therapist. I have no medical training whatsoever. What I have done is talk to experts and read their books and reports regarding Post Traumatic Stress – whether you add the D as in Disorder or not – it sucks.  And PTDS sucks for the whole family – including friends and coworkers.

To the best of my understanding, what I see from the cheap seats is everyone I have talked to and their family members who have shared with me their experiences with deployment is that everyone who serves comes back different.  Is this because of a label like PTSD? Is this just a normal human reaction to the abnormal experience of War? Probably a little bit of both with some additional trauma thrown in.

I don’t know how we ever expected people to be the same coming back after a combat experience. We change after we go to college. We change after we find religion. We change every time we experience something new.  Some changes are for the better. Some changes are for the worse.

All I know is that what I hear on the air and off the air that when people come back they are different. Some differences are extreme and some are traumatic for everyone involved.  Some differences suffer in silence. I have also understood from many service members that they are different after every deployment. I guess I can sum it up in a few words- after every deployment everyone including the service member and their family and friends must adjust to a new normal.

PTSD/PTS is real and it’s here to stay.  The more we accept it as an expected I believe the faster we can get services to the people who really need it. I believe the faster we remove the stigma from this, the faster we can raise awareness, help those affected and move forward with what we all need.

I also learned from my experiences that PTSD/PTS is much like the word cancer. It covers just a huge spectrum of situations.  I have also heard about treatments that span the same spectrum. They are as wide and varied as the diagnosis itself. My advice from a completely un-medical perspective:

Do what works. Use your head but be open to new things – remember no one ever died from an open mind. Stop what doesn’t or makes it worse. You served our country. You are oue hero. You are valuable and we need you here. Keep trying until you figure out what you need to do to take care of yourself and never, never quit.

Sandra Beck is the host of Military Mom Talk Radio a show dedicated to bringing issues, solutions and up to date information to our Military Families.  Mondays 2pm PST on Toginet.com. Also available for free on Itunes.  Sandra Beck is a writer for MilitaryConnection and a member of VAMBOA and Military Writer’s Society of America This Article appeared on http://www.militaryconnection.com.

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Bouncing with Style, By Sandra Beck, Military Mom Talk Radio

I talk a lot about Bouncing. I like the word “Bounce” because it says to me that we just get knocked down and bounce right up again like a rubber ball. “Bounce” also sounds fun. I mean really how much fun are the words “recovery”, “adjustment” and “rebound.”

Chances are if you are alive reading this you will go through death, financial loss, separation and probably divorce in this lifetime at some point or another.  I got hit with all of those in the past few years all at once and it seemed like it would never end. My life was like a wave of pain that kept washing over me – only it didn’t cleanse me it just hurt.
Life is full of hurts and I think the military family goes through more than most civilian families. They have to say goodbye a lot more. They have to change a lot more. They also wonder if mom or dad is ever coming home and if they are what will that be like. These are some of the special conditions that our military families face on a daily basis. One of my radio show guests moved 19 times in “her” military career as did “her children.”  Yeah, it was the “dad” who served but one when enlists the whole family comes along for the ride.  I call the kids the “littlest soldiers” because they are serving too.

Because life is hard and bad things happen to all of us, I have learned that the way I phrase it in my head makes a big difference in my day.  If I get up and “bounce” I smile. If I am in “recovery” I frown.  Same things happened to me, but the way I choose to phrase them in my head make all the difference.

Take my divorce. It sucked. I was cheated on, then left alone with little kids and got the bills dumped on my head while my mom died of breast cancer. Any way you slice it – it sucked.  I could use the word “divorced” but that has such an icky feel to it. I choose the word “recycled” and I feel like I am helping the planet at the same time.

I don’t like to say I am in “abuse recovery” either.  That just sounds dismal. So I choose the phrase “I’m bouncing with style.”  And what does style mean??? – it means getting up every day , fixing my hair…putting on something other than sweats and greeting my future.  Do I hit the mark every day – not a chance.  But I try and do my best to phrase things in my head in a way that serves me.  Why do it any other way?  When life bowls me over, I bounce.  Do you?

Sandra Beck is the host of Military Mom Talk Radio a show dedicated to bringing issues, solutions and up to date information to our Military Families.  Mondays 2pm PST on Toginet.com. Also available for free on Itunes.  Sandra Beck is a writer for MilitaryConnection and a member of VAMBOA and Military Writer’s Society of America This Article appeared on http://www.militaryconnection.com.

Motherhood Talk Radio welcomes Michael Russer of Live Outrageously

Motherhood Talk Radio welcomes Michael Russer of Live Outrageously

Motherhood Talk Radio, Motherhood Incorporated, Motherhood Company, Sandra Beck, Christy Holly, Robin Boyd, Doris Rivas Brekke, Linda Franklin, Danee Kiernan, Susan Haid, Lisa Detres, Suzann Sladcik Wilson, Michael Russer, Live Outrageously, Girl Scouts, Girl Scouts of the USA, GSGWM, Mom Talk Radio, Mommy Talk Radio, Talk Radio for Moms, Embracing Motherhood, Motherhood Radio, Parenting Talk Radio, Parent Talk Radio, Talk Radio for Parents, Embracing Parenthood, Parent Radio, Mom Radio, Mommy Radio, Woman Talk Radio, Women Talk Radio, Women’s Issues Talk Radio, Women’s Health Talk Radio, Work At Home Mom Talk Radio, Women Power Talk Radio, Smart Women Talk Radio, Advice for managing cancer, Living with Cancer, Relationship Advice Talk Radio, women’s issues shows, women’s issue show, talk radio los angeles, free cooking advice, cooking talk radio, family matters,  advice for families, free advice for families, free adoption advice, advocate for women, crafting for moms, child adoption services, empowerment thinking, optimal thinking, culture building, diversity training, nutrition talk radio, friend ship talk radio, girlfriend talk radio, girlfriend advice on dating, girlfriend advice on marriage, girlfriend advice on wedding, girlfriend advice on relationship, Michael J. Russer is an author, coach and speaker for the Live Outrageously movement. He is going to help military families and their friends navigate through change, transition and adjusting to a new normal. With 40 years of corporate, entrepreneurial and life skills experience, he can shed new light onto one of the most common aspects of military life: change.

Russer, CEO of RUSSER Communications and Managing Director for GoArmyHomes LLC is an international speaker, author and columnist about doing business online and virtual outsourcing.  He is co-author (along with Christine Durst and Michael Haaren of StaffCentrix) of “Transform Your Business Using Virtual Assistants”, the first book on virtual assistants for the real estate industry.

Motherhood Talk Radio  stars  Sandra Beck, and is hosted by Toginet Radio and RockStarRadio, and powered by Motherhood IncorporatedMotherhood Talk Radio features the powerful voices of  Christy Holly, Robin Boyd, Linda Franklin, Doris Rivas Brekke, Danee Kiernan, Susan Haid, Lisa Detres and Suzann Sladcik Wilson. Motherhood Talk Radio bring you everything from the latest crafting tips to how to be sexy in your 40s to great parenting tips to  moms living with cancer and most importantly how to Bounce Back with Style.

Sandra Beck is the host of two Radio Shows: Military Mom Talk Radio and Motherhood Talk Radio. An active contributor and participant in many charities, Sandra Beck strives to make the world a better place for today’s and our future’s children. Near to her heart are Toys for Tots, World of Children and Children Uniting Nations. Sandra Beck was born in a small town outside of Buffalo, New York. She attended Northwestern University Medill School of Journalism, and earned both her Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism and her Master’s Degree in Advertising.

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Doris Rivas-Brekke, welcomes Laura Garber of Cinderalla 11pm.

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Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Doris Rivas-Brekke, welcomes Laura Garber of Cinderalla 11pm.

Cinderella11pm.com is all about bringing magic into women’s everyday lives. It is a blog where they celebrate everyone’s inner princess. 

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There are posts about tantalizing travel destinations, good food, and shared thoughts on everything from gratitude to books, movies and music. It is a place to make new friends and lots of room for you to leave your comments on the posts that move you.

The blog was created from Laura’s own experiences.  She used blogging to help get through a particularly tough time—eventually moving from just surviving to really thriving. She made amazing connections with people around the world and found out that many others were going through similar situations to her.  They shared their thoughts, fears, hopes and even dreams. 

It really made a difference for her.

Laura wanted to pay it forward, and from that http://cinderella11pm.com/ was born. Laura, a veteran blogger, originally started blogging in 2003 on women’s issues but she wanted to do something more and something more directly from the heart.

http://cinderella11pm.com/ is a portal that brings women together, lets women know they are not alone, helps us hope, and reminds us to remember our dreams.  It is even a place where wishes are granted.

Military Moms struck a particular chord with Laura due to the service and sacrifice these women make for our country.  In one of her recent posts Laura spoke about the choices we make and how we live out our Karma.  Laura feels Moms who put serving our country first, make a choice that she wants to honor.

Laura Garber likes being a Fairy Godmother, and from time to time surprises visitors to her site with amazing giveaways—just to add a little more magic. Click on http://cinderella11pm.com/ and see what she is giving away this week to Military Moms.

Beyond Cinderella11pm.com Laura loves to travel, gives to various charities and is constantly looking to connect people.

Motherhood Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated.  Motherhood Talk Radio would like to thank our guest who have spoken with respect to motherhood on the following topics: women’s issues, parenting, relationship advice, personal growth, divorce, marriage, dating, weddings, relationships, health care, pet health, crafting, beading, relationship advice, cooking, family matters, care packages for soldiers, nutrition, child adoption, children with brain injuries, children’s advocacy, autism, cancer, eldercare issues, child care issues, personal growth and parenting issues.

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Doris Rivas Brekke present Anita Mellott author of School is Where the Home Is: 180 Devotions for Parents

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Anita grew up in India, climbing mango trees, and devouring books and mangoes. With a post-graduate degree in journalism and mass communications in hand, she moved to Canadato major in communications and culture at the University of Windsor. A brief stint in advertising and P.R. followed when I returned toIndia. She soon moved on to teaching journalism at her alma mater–a time she still treasures. She worked for 13 years as a writer/editor with Habitat for Humanity International.  

A few years ago, while riding the emotional roller coaster of a high-risk pregnancy after almost 10 years of infertility, a whisper sounded in her heart: “Write to encourage others.” That whisper soon grew to a crescendo. Now most days find her doing a balancing act between homeschooling and writing.

Life’s ups and downs have included job loss, the death of loved ones an ocean away, chronic illness, and infertility. Despite a recent diagnosis of ankylosing spondylitis, a degenerative auto-immune disorder, she believes and has experienced that “though weeping may last for the night, joy comes in the morning.” So she continues to write and speak of hope in spite of life’s challenges. You can find her at www.anitamellott.com .

Motherhood Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated.  Motherhood Talk Radio would like to thank our guest who have spoken with respect to motherhood on the following topics: women’s issues, parenting, relationship advice, personal growth, divorce, marriage, dating, weddings, relationships, health care, pet health, crafting, beading, relationship advice, cooking, family matters, care packages for soldiers, nutrition, child adoption, children with brain injuries, children’s advocacy, autism, cancer, eldercare issues, child care issues, personal growth and parenting issues.

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson present the Change Show

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Christy Holly, Rick Swanson and Sandra Beck of Motherhood Talk Radio

Motherhood Talk Radio’s April 5th show, hosted by Sandra Beck and Christy Holly, and Rick Swanson talks about changes in their lives and how they rebounded, recovered and went on to greater success.

If I say the word “CHANGE” how do you feel? Most people remain fearful, anxious and uncomfortable with change, despite it being a driving issue in our society. It appears that no matter how much experience we have it doesn’t get any easier.

Gaining a level of understanding that allows you to be productive, creative and flexible with your own life as well as helping others handle change is key to succeeding in today’s ever-changing world. Listen in as Sandra, Christy and Rick share their insight and inspiration about their every changing lives.

The show airs live every Wednesday at 3pm PST on Toginet.com. Check it out on www.Itunes.com  or www.MotherhoodTalkRadio.com  if you missed it! 

Motherhood Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated.  Motherhood Talk Radio would like to thank our guest who have spoken with respect to motherhood on the following topics: women’s issues, parenting, relationship advice, personal growth, divorce, marriage, dating, weddings, relationships, health care, pet health, crafting, beading, relationship advice, cooking, family matters, care packages for soldiers, nutrition, child adoption, children with brain injuries, children’s advocacy, autism, cancer, eldercare issues, child care issues, personal growth and parenting issues.